Don’t tell people that you are smarter
Remind others in a way that is nothing.
Remind him not to know, it seems to remind him to forget.
銆€銆€Sir Richard Defair, a 19th-century British politician, once taught his son: “Be smarter than others, but don’t tell people that you are smarter than him.
Socrates repeatedly warned his disciples in Athens: “You only know one thing, that is, you know nothing.”
No matter what method you take to point out the mistakes of others: a contemptuous look, a dissatisfied tone, an impatient gesture can have unbearable consequences.
Do you think he will agree with what you pointed out?
Because you denied his wisdom and judgment, it hurt his glory and self-respect, and also hurt his feelings.
Not only will he not change his mind, but he will also fight back. At this time, you will not even move out of the logic of Plato or Kant.
銆€銆€Never say such a thing.
“Look at it!
You will know who is right and who is wrong.
“This is equivalent to saying: “I let you change your mind, I am smarter than you.”
“This is actually a challenge. He is ready to fight before you have begun to prove the other’s mistakes.”
Why add difficulties to yourself?
銆€銆€I know a young New York lawyer.
He recently participated in a debate on an important case involving a large sum of money and an important legal issue.
During the debate, a judge of the Supreme Court said to a young lawyer: “The maritime law prosecution period is 6 years, right?
The lawyer took a look at the judge and then straightforwardly said: “No.
The President, the Maritime Law has no time limit for prosecution.
The lawyer later said to me: “At the time, the court immediately silenced.
It seems that even the temperature has dropped to freezing point.
Although I am right, he is wrong; I also pointed it out truthfully.
But he was not happy with it, but his face was dazzling.
Although the law is on my side, I have made a big mistake, and I have publicly pointed out the mistakes of a prestigious and knowledgeable person.
“This lawyer did make a “correct mistake than others.”
When you point out that others are wrong, why can’t you do it better?
銆€銆€Remind others in a way that is nothing.
Reminding him that he didn’t know seemed to remind him to forget.
銆€銆€If someone says a sentence that you think is wrong, isn’t it better to say this?
“Hey, I have another idea, but maybe it’s not right.
I am always mistaken.
If I am mistaken, I am willing to get it corrected.
“This will receive a magical effect.
No matter what the occasion, ask, who will object to you saying “I may not be right”?
銆€銆€In fact, that is the scientific approach.
Once, I went to visit the famous explorer and scientist Stevenson.
He lived in the Arctic for 11 years and he told me he was doing an experiment.I asked him: “Mr. Stevenson, what are you going to prove from the experiment?
“I will never forget his answer. He said: “Scientists will never intend to prove anything.
He only intends to discover the facts.
“The lawyer who made a mistake because of the correctness, if he understands Steven’s way of thinking, he will certainly make the judge’s attitude tolerant and generous.
銆€銆€Many of us are arbitrarily arbitrarily and prejudiced. Many of us have the disadvantages of being stubborn, conceited and embarrassed; generally we are not willing to change our perception of things.
銆€銆€Professor Robinson said a revelatory statement: “People sometimes change their minds naturally, but if someone says that he is wrong, he will be annoyed and more stubborn.
People sometimes form their own ideas without any basis, but if someone disagrees with his ideas, it will cause him to wholeheartedly defend his ideas.
Not how precious the ideas themselves are, or whose self-esteem is threatened.